When you hold to your worth and demand nothing less, when you cling to Christ and pray that He reads your hearts desires, and when you let Him take control, he'll prove His perfect plan and providence in unlikely ways. Kinda well thought out huh? Kinda also really long huh? Like there's no way someone could match all of my boyfriend requirements right? Wrong. I stayed quiet when I should have spoken up. I've been on the side that hurts other people, judges them and ignores them, I may not have taken an active roll in the bullying, there were no names being called, but there were cold walls put up, and I did nothing to stop it. With this outlook I realize I've been the bully. For example, icing out that one annoying girl and being rude to people that have done nothing to deserve it is on the spectrum. I also have the perspective now to realize that bullies come on a spectrum. In turn I think being mistreated has given me more compassion for my fellow human. Looking back as an adult I realize the silver lining to being treated like you're disposable, is never forgetting how it makes you feel.
She was infinitely important to me in that moment and we're still close today. I was lucky, I had one friend out of that group that realized she had fallen into the "I'm not the one bullying, I'm just a by-standard" trap. I felt isolated, totally vulnerable and worthless.
They could have just found common ground and remained friends, and with Teddie starting to this guy as an equal, rather than someone who is beneath her.Īt eighteen the same feeling I had when I was eight came back.
#FOUR SISTERS AND A WEDDING BUHAYPIRATA MOVIE#
It's as if the movie couldn't make it possible for her to suddenly embrace a new point of view unless it comes by way of a love interest. She could have learned to respect this guy as an actual friend by seeing his struggles and how people come from different walks of life but they're still worthy of respect. It just felt like the movie used a sob story to get them together. There wasn't even a romantic vibe between them. Then she finds him playing with orphans and discovers he was in an orphanage and somehow that's a turning point that helps bring them together. She had a college degree in teaching and it didn't matter if she was a maid she still believed she was meant for more and didn't really internalize that identity. She had to borrow money from him in order to go home for the wedding, and he only agreed if he could come and if she introduced him as her boyfriend.They mostly have comic relief moments together, such as trying to prove that Princess' family's spa secretly had prostitution since they advertised a "happy ending." She thought of herself as better than him because she came from a well-off family and she had years of education and advanced degrees. Teddie ends up with a guy even though they were basically friends the whole movie. The main romance seemed very forced to me. The film shifts the blame to the parents so that we'll think, "Oh, it's just the parents being ridiculous- the girls are being too hard on her." This is supposed to emphasize the overprotectiveness of the sisters and show that Princess is a woman worthy of CJ after all. The only thing that makes Princess sympathizable with the audience is that she really wants a low-key wedding deep down, is embarrassed by her parents' gaudy behavior, and is a good cook, offering to make breakfast for the Salazars. The father, in addition, insists CJ sign a prenup when they're all at the dinner table, insulting the Salazars. This gives off the idea that women should be simple, low maintenance and humble to be worthy of respect, and if not then they're scorned and made fun of. We're supposed to think the mother-in-law is ridiculous, with her ideas for the bridesmaid dresses being over the top Lady Gaga-esque sea themed frivolity- more camp style than traditional wedding. The movie, in addition, enforces gender roles, and the idea that a woman must be modest, quiet, and non-flashy to be worthy of respect.
It would be especially embarrassing because out of all the siblings, she was the overachiever and they all expected her to be doing well. There would be a sense of shame if her family found out and even more if people outside the family found out. Teddie was supposed to be a teacher in Spain but there was a recession and she was laid off but she didn't want to disappoint her mother. She was the one working multiple jobs that didn't even fit her degree, sending money back home while doing so. Teddie should have had those lines because she was the one working as a maid, and a waitress at a bar.
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